Lead Backend developer

Full-time, STOCKHOLM

Hello there! 👋

Welcome to Relate, welcome to an ambitious and impact-driven diverse team of dreamers and doers set out to change how people meet and build relationships, for a more authentic, conscious and loving world.

Are you a self-driven problem solver? Do you want to join a mission to create a lasting positive change in society? To build tools that bring people closer, that help single people find a meaningful and long-lasting relationship, and elevate individual wellbeing? Then you’ve come to the right place.


Relate is a values-based dating app and event concept connecting singles for more genuine meetings and meaningful relationships.

It is an alternative to the swipe culture, where matching and connecting on values to create more authentic and deeper interactions, replaces judging on surface and small talk. Relate is for people tired of dating games who are looking for something real.

We are now entering a stage where it is time to scale. We need a skilled backend specialist to help prepare for a bigger, and rapidly growing user base.


* Full time

* Lead Backend in a team with three other developers, and a total product team of six people

* Possibility for stock options


We believe that success in relationships, as in life itself, starts within ourselves. That it starts with self-awareness around what we value and what kind of life we want to lead.

We have created Relate to help people define and express their values and beliefs, to then connect to others in a more authentic way, to form meaningful relationships. In a world where technology has made us more superficially connected and focused on surface, we believe this is needed.

Your work will contribute to changing how we humans meet and build relationships. We are a total team of seven who work together in building the company, and a small dedicated team of developers working with React Native, Elastic, Node.js and Kubernetes. Every person is critical for success, which is why it’s so important that you love to solve problems, are curious, ambitious and get excited by the task of challenging status quo for how people meet.


As a Backend Developer you will:

Implement new functions to increase user engagement and help users build long-term meaningful relationships.
Design, develop, and manage scalable and distributed services in Kubernetes that support our development to reach out to a larger population and user base.
Further define and improve our algorithm and selection process for potential matches based on machine learning, to help users find a good match.
Your focus will primarily lie in supporting the app development through implementing backend functionalities and improve infrastructure, but since we are a small team you will also be involved in the general development of the app, both how it looks like and how it works.


We are looking for:

BS/MS in Computer Science/Engineering or equivalent, but an impressive list of personal projects beats everything.
Excellent knowledge in fundamental data structures, algorithms and software design.
Experience in designing and building distributed backend systems that can handle large volumes of traffic.
A passion for solving complex problems and for continuous improvement in how we work, individually and as a team.
Excellent knowledge and experience in Javascript and especially Node.js.
It is also important to us that you:

Have a strong drive to challenge and to change, and have a desire to be part of something larger than yourself.
Want to take part in building a movement for more authenticity and meaningfulness in how we people meet, interact and build relationships.
Are self-driven and organized with a strong drive to constantly learn and develop, professionally as well as personally.
You are comfortable in a fast moving, energetic and sometimes hectic startup environment where there’s not always structure and clarity, but a strong drive and sense of freedom and creativity.
Gold star if you have:

Experience in managing and supporting MongoDB and Elasticsearch in Kubernetes or equivalent.
Experience in design and development in React Native and React.
Experience in test-driven development, where you start with writing tests before implementing functions.
Experience with AWS, Redis and Elasticsearch.
Experience in development with Docker containers in Kubernetes or ECS.

As part of our team, you will appreciate:

The challenge and fight to as a startup create global impact through new innovations.
Being part of a larger network of top talented tech developers and entrepreneurs at Norrsken House, Europe’s biggest hub for impact and technology.
A ton of opportunities to solve some of humanities most exciting social and emotional problems.
To work with a diverse, broad and international team of smart, creative, fun and highly motivated colleagues.
Possibility to reap financial benefits of success through our stock option program.
Learn more about yourself and grow personally together with us.
A big insight and influence in product development.

/The Relate fam